CHARACTER is your ability to treat others with dignity, respect, and kindness-no matter what, to accomplish your employer’s goals.
It’s also your “badge of maturity” and the aggregate of features, qualities, and traits that form your nature which is reflected in how you treat others.
Extracted from The Effectiveness Guide:
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
– John Wooden
This picture depicts the hands of a Father, Mother, and Child representing the primary and most lasting influence in the development of your character
– your FAMILY.
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This is done through the skillful application of these nine most influential character traits:
- Adaptable: Are you flexible enough to see alternate paths/solutions?
- Loyalty: Are you loyal to your team and to your leader?
- Judgment: Do you make good decisions in a timely manner?
- Moral Courage: Do you stand-up for what is right and for others?
- Positive Attitude: Do you see the glass as half-full or half-empty?
- Integrity: Do you keep your promises?
- Dependability: Can you be counted on to consistently produce excellent results?
- Drive: Do you have what it takes to get things done without outside assistance?
- Respect: Do you treat others with dignity, respect, and kindness?
Character is the foundation of effectiveness. If you want to enhance your effectiveness, it begins with your character. Character is the aggregate of features and traits that form your nature. Effective people have strong character and are keenly aware of how their character affects everything they do.
True character is right behavior; what you say
and do when no one’s around.
Character is also a sign of maturity and is reflected in how you treat others, especially your subordinates and complete strangers. Do you treat everyone with dignity, respect, and kindness? Or do you play favorites and only treat those in positions of power and authority with dignity, respect, and kindness?
If you want to assess someone’s character,
take them to lunch and see how they treat the help.
Even though you’re responsible for your thoughts, words and deeds, there may be many hereditary, environmental, and training factors that have affected your character development. You’re still responsible for your response to these factors and the development of good habits.
Character can be developed by any combination of motivations, or by default. Character is how you treat others, especially when under stress. Being a person of character is a conscious choice you make every day. Learn from your mistakes. Be self-correcting!
If you want to enhance your ability to influence others, it begins with character. Character is the aggregate of features and traits that form your nature. Effective people have strong character and are keenly aware of how their character affects everything they do. Choose any great person from history and you’ll find this is true.
What do some Religions say about What’s RIGHT and WRONG?
The ultimate template for right behavior is The Golden Rule.
Here’s what some religions consider to be The Golden Rule:
- Christianity: “As ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.”
- Islam: “No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself.”
- Hinduism: “One should never do that to another which one regards as injurious to one’s own self.”
All religions teach their followers the same thing; to treat others as you wish to be treated – with dignity, respect and kindness.
Since character is so critical to your effectiveness, this is why we created this site.
All the above qualities are character traits. Do you demonstrate these qualities? What would those around you say? Effective people agree that if you want to enhance your effectiveness, it begins with character. Character is the aggregate of features and traits that form your nature. Effective people have strong character and are keenly aware of how their character affects everything they do.
True character is right behavior; what you say
and do when no one’s watching.
A character trait is a habit, a usual pattern or way of thinking, speaking, or acting. Like any habit, a character quality can be developed, and an undesirable character quality can be eliminated, by repeatedly making decisions and taking actions that reinforce character.
Children imprint on their parents (or whoever is their caregiver growing up), which means that they record and mimic their behaviors and attitudes, both the good as well as the bad.
- What you say: Word choice, expressions, jokes, bad language, following-up, praise, recognition, relationships, feedback, asking, persuading, courtesy, and treating others with dignity, respect, and kindness
- How you say it: Voice tonality, pause, inflection, tone, intensity, volume, pronunciation, emotion, enthusiasm, body language, and pacing
- What you do: Habits, do’s and don’ts, right vs. wrong, service, work ethic, abilities, effort, education, training, and personal mannerisms (manners, handshake, movement, posture, eye contact, dress, hygiene, grooming, gestures, energy, and enthusiasm)
Optimism, pessimism, customs, traditions, goals, fears, initiative, hope, values, confidence, knowledge, purpose, passion, opinions, emotions, ideas, tolerations, mood, memory, expectations, faith, beliefs, concerns, likes, dislikes, choices, standards, ethics, religion, focus, desires, aspirations, commitment, priority, perceptions, judgments, prejudices, and stereotypes.
This is also why so many young people end up incarcerated. They grew up with one or no parents to teach them right from wrong behavior; character.
Is Character a Sign of Maturity?
“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”
– Steven R. Covey
Yes! Character is a sign of maturity and is reflected in how you treat others, especially your subordinates and complete strangers. Do you treat everyone with dignity, respect, and kindness? Or, do you play favorites and only treat those in positions of power and authority with dignity, respect, and kindness? If you want to assess someone’s character, take them to lunch and see how they treat the server.
Do you really want someone on your team who never developed character as a child? You can train someone to perform technical skills, but teaching character is far more difficult. So how can you tell if someone is a person of character before you hire them? Fortunately, we have, “All I really need to know, I learned in Kindergarten,” thanks to Robert Fulghum, as a guide.
“These are the (16) things I learned:
- Share everything
- Play fair
- Don’t hit people
- Put things back where you found them
- Clean up your own mess
- Don’t take things that aren’t yours
- Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody
- Wash your hands before you eat
- Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you
- Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some
- Take a nap every afternoon
- When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together
- Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
- Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die – so do we
- And, then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned – the biggest word of all – LOOK.”
Everything you need to know about life is hidden in these 16 lessons learned somewhere. Character includes The Golden Rule, love, basic sanitation, ecology, politics, equality, and sane living. All these are signs of maturity.
Think what a better world it would be if we all had cookies and milk at about 3 o’clock. If all nations had a law to always “put things back where they found them” and to “clean up your own mess,” what a better world we could create. That’s the power of character.
In fact, this is a great beginning of how to treat others with dignity, respect, and kindness. What character traits did you learn growing up?
Character Always Matters!
Character doesn’t happen automatically and is too important to be left to chance. Your effectiveness depends on it. And there is such a thing as right and wrong behavior.
We all have the duty to teach others, especially the young, that honesty is superior to lying, fairness to cheating, and stealing, and caring to indifference.
To be continued: If you’d like to learn more about enhancing your CHARACTER, you can do so by adding this book to your professional library, today!
YOUR GUIDE TO
Here you’ll learn these skills:
CHAPTER 1: BY KNOWING THE POWER OF CHARACTER
CHAPTER 2: BY RECOGNIZING THE SIGNS OF MATURITY
CHAPTER 3: BY IDENTIFYING RIGHT FROM WRONG BEHAVIOR
CHAPTER 4: BY KNOWING HOW CHARACTER IS LEARNED
CHAPTER 5: BY “CELEBRATING THE STRUGGLE”
CHAPTER 6: BY CHOOSING GOOD ROLE MODELS
CHAPTER 7: BY PROTECTING YOUR CHARACTER
CHAPTER 8: BY RECOGNIZING YOUR LIMITING BEHAVIORS
CHAPTER 9: BY BECOMING MORE SELF-AWARE
CHAPTER 10: BY BECOMING MORE “INTERDEPENDENT”
CHAPTER 11: BY BECOMING MORE “RESILIENT”
CHAPTER 12: BY DEMONSTRATING “MORAL COURAGE”
CHAPTER 13: BY BEING HUMBLE
CHAPTER 14: BY PROTECTING THEIR “HEALTH & WELFARE”
CHAPTER 15: BY LIVING YOUR ” LEADERSHIP PHILOSOPHY”
CHAPTER 16: BY SERVING YOUR TEAM
CHAPTER 17: BY TREATING OTHERS WITH “DIGNITY, RESPECT, AND KINDNESS”
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CHAPTER 3: BY BECOMING A BETTER PLANNER
CHAPTER 4: BY BECOMING A BETTER ORGANIZER
CHAPTER 5: BY BECOMING A BETTER COMMUNICATOR
CHAPTER 6: BY BECOMING A BETTER PROBLEM SOLVER
CHAPTER 7: BY ENHANCING YOUR AWARENESS
CHAPTER 8: BY BECOMING A BETTER TRAINER
CHAPTER 9: BY ENHANCING YOUR ABILITY TO MOTIVATE
CHAPTER 10: BY ENHANCING YOUR CHARACTER
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APPENDIX C: ADVANCE PROBLEM SOLVING WITH VUCA
APPENDIX D: CAREER ADVICE
APPENDIX E: CREATING MISSION AND VISION STATEMENTS
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